why i hated this season of "the bachelor"

i'm not a huge fan of reality tv because i'm too much of a realist and i tend to nit pick things that are supposed to be real.  we all know it's scripted.  that said, i have become a (fickle) fan of the bachelor(ette).  as a single woman, it's appealing to spend 1-2 hours shutting your brain off and imagining a handsome man whisking you away with the hope of true love on the horizon.

of all the bachelor shows i've seen, this was my LEAST favorite.  first off, juan pablo is a fucking asshole.  the final episode made me so mad because it reminded me of all the assholes i've had the misfortune of dating.  men who are emotionally unavailable should go on craigslist casual encounters, a glory hole spot, buy a masturbation sleeve from me... or go to therapy.  they don't belong on dating websites and they most certainly don't belong on a national dating show!!!

(public enemy #1)

but we want to believe they DO want what we want... so we look past the warning signs, keep our heads down, and hope for the best. 

at least, this is what several of these chicks did.

i noticed early on that juan pablo had the same canned responses, but it wasn't until he told clare in the helicopter "i loved fucking you" after she asked if he loved her that i started to see red.  and then "after the final rose" when he "really liked" nikki but still won't say "i love you".  can you say PUBLICITY STUNT?!?!?!  absolutely disgusting.

some may say that these chicks should have expected it but i disagree.  speaking very generally (and about myself), women are hardwired to love and be in love.  everyone wants someone who will make them happy, care for them, someone to come home to......... i know i want that.  and i believe at the very least nikki and clare wanted that too.

why are men the ones with an upper hand???  why can they be devoid of feelings and women are supposed to expect that?  is it all a part of "playing the game"?

it's so frustrating!  i attempted to play the game back and act like a man, act like i didn't care and wasn't developing feelings for someone... but either way, they win.  WHERE ARE THE MEN THAT WANT A RELATIONSHIP?  DO THEY EVEN EXIST?!?!?!?!?!