(now all you men can breathe a sigh of relief)
once upon a time in 2005, i met J through yahoo personals (back when that was THE free dating site... i don't think okcupid was around then). J took me out to dinner to my favorite restaurant at the time, jaleo, and we immediately hit it off. J is tall and lanky and incredibly dorky looking, which i have a thing for. he has a good job with the government and his own car and his own place, which unfortunately at the time was a rare occurance in my dating life.
now after the date, i made the mistake (fueled by a pitcher of sangria) to invite him back to my apartment where we had crazy sex for hours. it was awesome.... then.... nothing. no call, no texts, it was like crickets chirping!! and i was PISSED. i rarely have one night stands (and now it's a huge no no, three dates minimum) and i was mad at myself for letting him get one over on me. he did send me an email a couple weeks after our date apologizing and letting me know he was leaving for pakistan on a three year assignment. peace out motherfucker!!!
fast forward to present day. lo and behold, who messages me on okcupid but J?! he's back in the states and do i remember our tryst? well duh, yes, and i also remember him disappearing. i gave him shit and he apologized profusely. i decided that i would allow him to make it up to me, but ain't no way in HELL i'm having sex with him again for awhile. and yes reader, i realize that he may just be telling me what i want to hear, but the man is sexy and i WANT to give him a second chance. :P
so at this point, we've been chatting for a few weeks. he's so busy that he makes me feel like my busy life is twiddling thumbs comparatively. his schedule is absolutely absurd. he mentioned going out to dinner later this week so i texted him today to see about making plans. he replies that he's leaving for denver this afternoon. BLAH.
that's it. enough is enough, this is obviously not meant to be. and disappointing too, because out of all my prospective dates, J is the one i'm most interested in..... i told him that this is not meant to be and to have a nice trip. i'm giving up.
that seemed to do the trick. next thing i know, my phone is chiming non-stop with texts asking me to meet him for coffee. which i did, making it the quickest date in the history of dates. i think speed dating was longer.
i'll give him this... as we were sitting at the starbucks in pentagon city mall, he's getting alerts that they are pre-boarding his flight. he still needed to go home to DC, pack, and get a taxi back to national airport.
we're going out to dinner most likely in the new year since he returns from colorado and i leave the next day for a business trip. he's going to make it up to me. he freaking better!!!!
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in other news, the scientist and i had a second date. this one went much better and i'm starting to like him more, but i don't think we're on the same page in that concern. he's trying to spend every day with me and that's not what i want (from him). our happy hour drinks date turned into another $100 dinner where we (thankfully) had more to talk about. he did make me blush which is incredibly rare, and he was a gentleman. we had our first kiss... no tongue. so i'm confused... he seems to want to take it slow but in the same token every day he's texting me to hang out. he wanted to do lunch yesterday, he want to chit chat last night, he wants to go to the movies tonight, he wants to go out tomorrow... yikes!
he probably wants to bone me. i'd want to bone me. instead i've made plans to hang out with one of my BFFs tonight. one date per day is enough for this diva!!
